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In the Words of Bob Marley

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

Bob Marley

Love

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My Man Poem

My Man

Love the part about how she’s going to love him…

Now You Must Find a Husband

Earlier this year, I left the studio to find that someone had left this note on my car windscreen.

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Yes, I am at that age where people ask when I’m getting married and having children. Some seem genuinely concerned for my mental wellbeing (apparantly not being married is supposed to drive a woman to the brink insanity), some express their sympathy that I’m not married yet, while some come up with theories as to why I supposedly haven’t found ‘the one’ and how I can overcome this. Very few people actually take the time to ask me why I have chosen to not get married yet. Few people stop to consider that I have chosen this path for myself and few realise that I am happy with the decisions that I have made.

I am what I call a ‘love optimist’ and I believe strongly in love and commitment. I think marriage is beautiful but I also believe that it must be entered into with love, honesty and unwavering commitment. That I have chosen to not be married is not about fear or, as some would believe, some assertion of my ‘independent woman’ status.

Will I ever get married? I don’t know. I prioritise the honesty, commitment and love in a relationship, whatever context that offers itself in.

Will I ever have children? I don’t know. That is not within my control. Many people hope to have children and never do; many people never plan to have children and yet they do.

What I do know is that love, respect, honesty and commitment are what matter to me. If I have that, I have what is most important to me.

Why Do You Want to Get Married?

Here is an interesting piece on thinking carefully about the expectations we go into marriage and relationships with.

6 Reasons Not to Get Married

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